gaywad pt. II

[DCortez]

At a diner last month, I had a waitress tell me kids should be free to make their own decisions. This was after I shot down my kids order and ordered for him. I asked her if she had any kids ... no. Was she married ... no.

I didn't ask her the most important question ... are you paying?

Why did I take over the kid's meal? Well, our next stop was several hours off. I did not want the kid eating 3 french fries and going around hungry the rest of the day.

So I'm wondering ... how many people out there give their kids free reign to do and say anything they want at school, home, or in public. Am I the only caveman that thinks my roof, my rules? Is it too much to expect parents to parent?

 

[Texas42]

You impinged on your kids' growth and development. They are going to be scarred for life.

Sorry.

 

[SiscoKid]

how many people out there give their kids free reign to do and say anything they want at school, home, or in public. Am I the only caveman that thinks my roof, my rules? Is it too much to expect parents to parent?

You are totally correct. I have just about disowned my son over this. If my 6 yr. old grandson wants to eat candy or cake instead of his meal, my son will let him. He's a complete wuss.

I have told him and told him that he is his son's FATHER, not his best friend. No six year old knows what is best for him.

 

[MadMo44Mag]

DC there is part of the problem is parents not being parents.
Kids should have choices not free reign to do what they want and when they make a bad decision, as a good parent you step in and help them understand why it was a bad decision.
At that moment you may be the bad guy but down the road you become the hero!
Just my opinion for what its worth!

 

[DCortez]

You are totally correct. I have just about disowned my son over this.

I've disowned friends and family. I have both that will openly talk about sex, make openly racist remarks, and many other adult things in front of children. Not to mention how rotten their kids and spouses are.

I'm not going to tell them how to live, but I will not expose my kids to them or allow them to have any influence.

 

[kingofwylietx]

At restaurants, we decide what our daughter will eat. Usually, we'll give her a choice of 2 different meals. At home, she usually eats what we eat, unless it's too spicy. In that case, we'll let her pick between a couple of other items.

We are the parents and it is our responsibility to make sure she gets the nutrition her body needs.

In the case of the waitress, I would have felt comfortable giving her my opinion of her unsolicited opinion.

 

[navyguy]

"I have told him and told him that he is his son's FATHER, not his best friend. No six year old knows what is best for him."


+1 There is nothing wrong with being a buddy to your kids, but parents have a responsibility to protect, nurture and teach what is right and wrong. Until they are older, which varies with kids, they don't have a mature enough reasoning intellect to make the right decisions every time, and that is when parents need to step in and put them on the right track.

When our kids where young, we did pretty much what Kingo said. A couple of choices from a restaurant menu, and what we're eating at home. Paula always tried to serve up things they all could live with.

 

[Skip]

I usually give them a chance to pick, but if I don't approve they get what I order for them.

 

[cuate]

DCortez is on the right track...He cares !! I was a picky eater, bratty kid growing up,
but my Mom made, actually made me eat things that were good for me. I hated milk but her insistance made my teeth strong, If there are positive things to my mental and physical health that deserve recognition, Mom is the heroine !

Attaboy, DCortez !!

 

[TxEMTP69]

DC there is part of the problem is parents not being parents.
Kids should have choices not free reign to do what they want and when they make a bad decision, as a good parent you step in and help them understand why it was a bad decision.
At that moment you may be the bad guy but down the road you become the hero!
Just my opinion for what its worth!

hit the nail on the head, I couldn't have said it better myself, therefore I just quote you...

 

[TxEMTP69]

I've disowned friends and family. I have both that will openly talk about sex, make openly racist remarks, and many other adult things in front of children. Not to mention how rotten their kids and spouses are.

I'm not going to tell them how to live, but I will not expose my kids to them or allow them to have any influence.

+1

 

[GM.Chief]

I usually do like king of wiley and let them choose between a couple of options when we're out (i/e do you want the chicken strips or the cheeseburger) and at home they eat what their mother cooks or they go hungry until the next meal.

 

[hkusp1]

hey DC they are yours till their 18 you can do what you want with them, it was a good decision though.

 

[Acetone]

Just curious, but what did you order for him?

 

[codygjohnson]

My kid is always telling me what to do. If he's hungry, I come running and make sure he gets enough of whatever he wants. If it's bed time and he's not tired, I'll stay up until he feels like going to sleep. If he's upset about something and screams at me, I just talk softly to him and try to make him happy by whatever means necessary. If I’m running late for work in the morning but he needs something, I make sure he gets it before I leave the house.

Man, I would be a total wuss if it wasn’t for him being 2 months old...

 

[Wolfwood]

i remember one night, my mom had made lima beans
YUCH
i probably wouldve been ok if i jsut said "i really dont like lima beans,do i have to eat them?"

ohh no. when i finished everyhting else on ym plate i said somethign to the effect of "i aint eating these beans and you cant make me!"

well mom went and put on a pot of coffee, and said neitehr of us where going anywhere till, my plate was empty.
around 130 am i gave up and choked them down. learned my lesson for sure!
(then i found out my dad hates lima beans as much as i do, and he had almsot the same experience when he was a kid!)

 

[ROGER4314]

My Dad was a huge man and he ate like a Moose. He had a policy in his house. If we griped about our food, he'd pick up our plate, scrape it onto his and we were excused. There was no junk food in our house. You ate what was on the table or go without. It sure broke me of griping about my food!

Fast forwarding many decades, a bunch of cats decided to camp out around my house. I like animals and mice were a real problem that year. I started feeding them and although they were wild cats and never did get real cozy, they got a little more friendly.

Some of the little fur bags started Hissing me when I brought out their food. Being hissed while laying out good money to feed them wasn't going to fly so I locked up the commissary for 5 days. It's amazing what a few days without food will do for a sorry attitude! I became a pretty good guy PDQ!

Flash

 

[TrailDust]

So I'm wondering ... how many people out there give their kids free reign to do and say anything they want at school, home, or in public. Am I the only caveman that thinks my roof, my rules? Is it too much to expect parents to parent?

This is the California way. I have called it "child worship" for about two decades now. Out here they put all children on a god-like pedestal and virtually worship them. Anything the kids want to say or do is what the parent will obey. The worst of it is Californians exported this crap to the rest of the nation, and now we're all reaping the benefits....

BTW, out here you never, and I mean you NEVER, see a kid drinking milk at home or in a restaurant. It's sodas only. No wonder you've got 10-year-olds in this country suffering from osteoporosis. I call that child abuse.

 

[DCortez]

Just curious, but what did you order for him?

I forgot what he wanted to order, but I made him eat a sandwich. One of my pet peeves is wasted food.

I'm not a food nazi, hell I'd let him eat cake for dinner if we were at home. But when we are out on the road doing things, I'm not about to do the "dad I'm hungry" thing or the "dad, I need to use the restroom" five minutes after getting on the road.

Letting kids run the show is insane.

 

[dbgun]

Originally Posted by MadMo44Mag

DC there is part of the problem is parents not being parents.
Kids should have choices not free reign to do what they want and when they make a bad decision, as a good parent you step in and help them understand why it was a bad decision.
At that moment you may be the bad guy but down the road you become the hero!
Just my opinion for what its worth!
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hit the nail on the head, I couldn't have said it better myself, therefore I just quote you...

Another +1....I'm a parent, not a buddy. I let my kids know how much I care about them every chance I get. I also let them know that I have a responsibility to teach them about making good choices in life, even if these choices are the more difficult ones.