Divorce in Texas with a kid...

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Chat' started by Man With A Gun..., Dec 6, 2009.

  1. Man With A Gun...

    Man With A Gun... Member

    May 22, 2009
    Lakeway, Tx
    Looks like I'm headed down that road. Anybody been through the process? Have any good recommendations or know how the process works etc. Maybe know what pitfalls to avoid? (Besides getting hitched in the first place!!!)

  2. MadMo44Mag

    MadMo44Mag TGT Addict

    Jan 23, 2009
    Been there done that and as long as things are not hostile it can be pretty easy to work out.

    If you both can agree to everything it can be done in a matter of a few weeks.

    Myself it took nearly three years before she finally realized I held all the cards and gave up.

    So it all depends on if she wants to be fair or wants to screw you on the way out!

    Good Luck Brother!!!!
  3. android

    android Member

    Aug 9, 2009
    Austin, TX
    Sorry to hear about this..

    My brother just finalized his divorce a few months ago. He has three girls and they have joint custody.

    A lot depends on how vindictive it gets. One person may say they're going to be nice and then a few visits to a lawyer turns them into a nightmare. Send the guns to a trusted friends for safekeeping. If she tries a TRO (even unjustified) it can result in confiscation and lots of possible CHL problems.
  4. TxEMTP69

    TxEMTP69 TGT Addict TGT Supporter

    Feb 17, 2009
    if it looks like its gonna be a nasty one, get your guns out, and anything else you care deeply about. Good luck and will keep you in my prayers.
  5. txinvestigator

    txinvestigator TGT Addict

    May 28, 2008
    Ft Worth, TX
    You will have a minimum of 60 days from when you file to when the decree can be final. Look for a local chapter of Fathers for Equal Rights. Dads get screwed too often in divorces.

    Never agree to just use one attorney, hers. Get your own. I know you can't afford it; however, you more so cannot afford NOT to.

    If your temporary order has a restraining order (they all do) other than a restraining order solely affecting property interests, your CHL may be suspended.

    NEVER believe that she is or will give in to what you want. I have worked too many divorce cases, and it is all too common for someone to get ahold of her, even if she is agreeable, and get her wound up.

    That said, I am sorry for you, and mostly for the kids.
  6. Big country

    Big country TGT Addict

    Mar 6, 2009
    Cedar Park,TX
    Good luck man, sorry to hear about this.
  7. hk boy

    hk boy Active Member

    Mar 4, 2009
    Fort Worth
    my divorce was finalized in August 2009
    lukily I am on good terms with my ex (so far)
    I don't know what county you are in
    but look in your phone book, look up your county bar association
    they usually have a help line or low cost consultations
    it is better for you and your wife to get all posessions and child related issues worked
    out before you lawyer up
    good luck to you
  8. TexasRedneck

    TexasRedneck 1911 Nut Lifetime Member

    Jan 23, 2009
    New Braunfels, TX
    As others have said - have your own Counselor. Offer to pay for it if she'll work it out w/you and just use yours, and avoid the temptation to try and play any "games". As long as you both stay civil, you CAN work it out between you. The minute you go into court with a contested divorce, the only one that wins are the attorneys.
    Sorry to hear you're headed down that road - been on it myself, and it sux!!!
  9. navyguy

    navyguy TGT Addict

    Oct 22, 2008
    DFW Keller
    Sorry about that. Divorce even when things go smoothly is difficult at best. Some good advice already given, but figure just about everything will be split 50/50 property wise, and if you have kids, you'll no doubt be paying child support until they are 18.
  10. ROGER4314

    ROGER4314 Been Called "Flash" Since I Was A Kid!

    Jul 11, 2009
    East Houston
    Please read & heed:

    EVERY TIME you argue with her, the lawyers' cash registers will go "ka-ching". You may think you are standing up for your rights or righting the wrongs of the divorce process but in the end, it will all translate to money in the lawyers' pocket. They LOVE it when couples argue!

    Don't date, leave nasty Emails, notes or audio messages or do anything to rev her up.

    She won't be your wife anymore but she will always be the mother of the children. If you keep focus on what is best for the kids and take your mind off of how you'd like to choke the life out of her, things will be better.

    I got divorced in 1975 and never married again. I'm in a relationship that is making the 9 year mark. We are happy and the "M" thing has been discussed and put away. I'm not going to preach but you might consider that lifestyle.

    Getting married is like sticking your head in a lion's butt. For a while, everything is warm and cozy but sooner or later you will get the Hell kicked out of you.



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