Dr Anthony Fauci Is trash.

[baboon]

My wife’s brother died in his mid fifty’s after back surgery. He for the most part was his fathers son! The only respect I gave him was he retired out of the Arny, but with little rank.

When he died he was living in LA. He hooked up with some barrio queen on his last deployment. He had 2 kids with some underaged bar fly will in EL Paso. When he got her knocked up the way his parents acted made me tell the wife no kids of mine would ever be around her parents!

The father in law had POA over his sons estate! The way he acted in letting his grandson have his fathers guns was phuced. I wouldn’t be surprised if the old man ripped off the grandkids cash wise!

The niece & nephew are finishing up school in Commiepornia. The nephew did his time in the Army. They are coming to Texas in June. Their mom lives in Gladewater.

I have more of a relationship with the wife’s nephew then my own back In Illinois. The wife niece has some issues that I don t know the details of!

The niece & nephew currently live together. My hat is off to the nephew looking after his sister. His plans are buying a trailer & making the move. I ain’t real sure where they will end up in Texas, but I doubt it will be with their grandparents!

The nephew knows he is welcome here with us. He is going to be a vet tech so work can’t be to hard for him once here. No clue what his sisters degree will be in.

After her father died she took her moms Hispanic last name legally. I’m not sure WTF that’s about. Perhaps it was the play the system as a minority!

The shit is going to get real strange come June when they show up! The wife parents are talking assisted living. My guess they can’t afford any of any quality!

I’m not sure if the wife has been made executor of her parent will or has POA! My wife has never balanced a check book until a few months ago! I told her I was no longer going to cover her spending! I know the FIL has little use for his grandsons over comments he made about getting high on weed once he was out of the Army. I’m sure the FIL was less then impressed when the granddaughter got her medical marijuana card out in Commiepornia!

 

[Sasquatch]

@candcallen and @baboon give good examples of why I'm loathe to take on caring for family. BTDT after my grandmother died. My childhood was kind of fucked - my mom was impregnated with me at 18 - as my dad tells it - the first time he ever got laid, my seed was planted. They were married before I was born, my pop went off to Lackland AFB for basic.

My mom left my dad right before Thanksgiving, just months after I was born. My grandparents pressured her into leaving my dad - not because he was abusive, or a prick - but they couldn't control her when she was here, in Texas. So they convinced her to leave and bring me with them. Then they turned around and wrestled custody of me away from my mom. Accused her of being unfit. Pulled some shady shit. Small town / rural county Oregon politics of the early 1980s. I was raised, from the time I was 3 months old - by my grandparents. Legally adopted and became their son when I was 9. That created a whole different level of fucked up, because legally my mother is my sister now. I didn't have a maternal relationship with her for a very long time, and I didn't meet my dad again until a month before I turned 30.

Back in 2008 my grandmother got bad. She'd been a lifelong HEAVY smoker, and on Mother's Day of 1999 she had a massive heart attack, had a triple bypass, suffered blood clotting caused by an inattentive nurse using the wrong chemicals to clean out her IV's which caused gangreen to set in into her legs, and caused her to have a stroke while hospitalized. When she came home from the hospital - she had no legs below the knee and was paralyzed on her right side. She went from being active and doing shit for herself, to having to rely on someone else to wipe her ass and bathe her. Three days past Christmas in 08 she died. Id' made a stupid promise to her that when she died, my wife and I would care for my granddad - not blood relation mind you - step grand dad, but the only grandparent I ever knew at that point. I wasn't allowed to see *any* of my dad's family growing up.

The situation wound up being my wife and I giving up our home - getting rid of 95% of out shit, and moving into the house I grew up in (a rental, not even one my grandparents owned) - my wife and I had been married for about a year and a half at that point. It became a cluster ****. Damn near resulted in our marriage ending. My grand dad became intolerable - not because he actually needed much physical care, but he needed help with the house - we made a financial agreement to split costs on things - but he wouldn't show us the bills. I wound up being stroked by paying not only our share of costs - but covering an aunt/sister's goddamned expenses too because her stupid lazy ass got fired (for cause) and wouldn't get a new job. Her lazy, entitled POS teenage daughter with Coach purse addiction also wound up with a lot of my money without me knowing.

Because said POS teenager also didn't want to attend school in the district in which she lived, she moved in with us 6 days a week to. Woofed down the food we bought (big girl, big appetite) without her or her mom pitching in for groceries. Her sketchy ass druggie friends were in and out constantly and I had shit go missing that mysteriously no one knew anything about.

It got so bad, that I told the man who raised me he could **** off and die and I'd never speak to him again, and wouldn't even make a trip to piss on his grave. And I never spoke to him after the day we moved the hell out of there for the next seven years before he died. One of the straws that broke the damn camel's back on it? I got laid off, and it took me a week to find and start a new job. At the time I had a 9 month old son to care for - and his damn demands for more and more money drained what money my wife and I had saved.

One night when he was out - I said **** it, found the key to his damn desk and went thru all the goddamned bills to see what I was being charged for - because in Oregon a $500 electric bill for a 3 bedroom home is almost unheard of, unless you were running an illegal grow op out of one in those days. We used an oil furnace, and had no AC in the house. I saw our highest electric bill over the winter was $200 - and I discovered copies of my aunt's electric bill and shut off notices. I was fuckin' livid and confronted him about that shit and told him he wasn't getting another goddamn dime from me - I called the land lord, told them we were getting the hell out and to remove us from the lease - it was all on him and we would be out by the end of the month.

I think it took us two weeks to find a place and go thru the paperwork to move.

When my wife's dad passed back in 2019 I started having flash backs - because her mom was equally unable to care for the upkeep of a place by herself. We discussed a lot of options. She did wind up moving here to Texas with us - as she had no family left, and we made it crystal clear that we were leaving Oregon one way or another in 2020.

Thankfully we've not had issues with my MIL - other than her not wanting to take good care of herself health-wise and follow doctor's instructions. But she isn't a pain in the ass, she'll keep an eye on the kiddo if we ask her to while the wife and I run errands or have the occasional date night, and my MIL doesn't require anyone to hold her hand, wipe her ass, or wash her cooch. I just have to drive her to appointments because my MIL has never, ever, in 70 years had a driver's license or learned to drive.

 

[baboon]

I'm not saying I grew up with June & Ward Cleaver, by far we we not Cleaver's. My dad dropped out of High School to go off to WWII because it was far better then what he had going on. I remember my dad working graveyard sifts. I remember him applying for jobs & getting turned down for lack of a diploma. I remember him taking a really crappy job so he could go to night school for a diploma. I guess I remember all this even as a little kid because we were a very tight family. I remember him landing a good job after the diploma.

My dad was very frugal! It was all about needs not wants growing up, but we never went hungry & were never homeless! I can remember what a big deal it was to get a McDonald's or other dine out meals. I'm old enough to remember the arch on the building & burgers might have been .29 cents. I grew up with chores at home & did chores @ my grandparents the next street over for that extra money. My dad seldom threw a ball, but we always had the crap to play games with balls. My dad was more likely to spend the weekend doing maintenance on the house or vehicle. We had 1 car for the longest time. My dad could troubleshoot and fix anything. He never hired anyone to do work of any kind!

I was taught to work for money, but anything I did around the house was part of earning my keep. I was told if I expected to drive @ 16 I better start eating & banking money! I have been thing about getting a cord of wood for the fire place here. Whenever I think about it I think of all the cords I hand split. I remember tearing off an old roof & putting the new one on. I got a roofing hatchet & tool belt out of that deal!


When I first started dating my wife her brother was still at home. I can remember her dad talking shit about him being stupid & lazy & useless. The old man bragged about how stupid his son was & how when he went to work he unscrew the cable outside. And how stupid he was not to figure it out when it came on when he got home. Her dad bragged about how he drag the boy to the Army recruiter & got rid of him.

When the wife & I decided we wanted to get married we made our plans. My mom had been dead for a while & all my family out of state. I knew a guy from work who was a real deal preach & could marry us. My wife I use to go eat ea an occasional brush at Vargo's in Houston. Vargo's would let you use the garden if you had a wedding meal there. That was the plan until the wife laid it on her parents. Then it just got really twisted & nothing like we had planned! The wife was really surprised I didn't bail on the stupid crap her mom envisioned & the wife paid for! After the ceremony the wife family with my dad went to Vargos to eat. We weren't included. My dad laughed his ass off when the wife father produced BOGO coupons!

When my brother in law got stationed in El Paso he got some underaged bar fly chick pregnant. He called home to say he was getting married. My mother in law lost it! She wanted the wife to call & talk him out of it! This was after the MIL had been going on & on about wanting grandkids! I told my wife if she got pregnant I'd move us far away from her parents! The more time I spent round them the less I could tolerate them. Finally after a holiday I told the wife if she made go around them I would call them out on all the petty scumbag bullshit in front of whoever was around!

The only drawback to the new house is being closer to them assholes! But I made the wife a promise I'd get her closer to them. With the recent MIL wanting to come to Thanksgiving here them her dad crying like a **** about what I was going to fix I told the wife I won't be attending either funerals!

 

[Mowingmaniac 24/7]

baboon,

Your Dad is one the Americans (at least 50% of us still are) who value family, work, perseverance at getting ahead until domestic commies convinced the gullible and lazy - free shit for all without lifting a finger...uh-huh...how much evil history in places like russia, cuba, venezuela et al does it take for these pathetic fools to take place before they wake the fk up?

According to burn-ee sanders bread lines and want of everything is a good thing.

WTF?

And they love inflation.

In venezuela inflation is so severe, in order to buy anything...(assuming availabilit...usually not) they have to weigh their currency - individual notes mean nothing.

communism - the scourge of humanity.

 

[skfullgun]

Y'all have been through a lot.
I have had plenty of family drama, but it all pales in comparison.

I've got a sister who adopted a boy at two who's mother was a prostitute/stripper in jail for attempted murder at the time. He is now in high school and let's just say I think crime is in his genes, and we don't trust him around any of the younger children in the family.

I guess we all have our drama. I was going to write more but it made me realize my family might me more dysfunctional than I realized. We may have put the FUN in dysFUNctional!

 

[Mowingmaniac 24/7]

With the exception of my Daughter and Granddaughters, I have zero to do with my biological family (I had to give up on my 1st Cousin who I love dearly, but she went totally left and insisted I do the same, ah nope, wouldn't be prudent) and so does my Wife avoid her biological family - she too doesn't want leftist acquiescence as a perquisite to be a fully recognized family member...fk that.

Thus, no family drama...it's a good thing.

My Daughter and Granddaughters are a joy.

I would love to interact with my biological family, but not at the expense of agreeing with their leftist ideas to get along. Best to just stay at arms length.

Did I mention I loath communism and all it's kissin cousins?

 

[JCC]