In the forth quarter of life, I've decided to take up shooting/collecting as a hobby and sport. My wife, who is only nearing the forth quarter of life, has decided to also enjoy this activity. I'm looking for suggestions on what over the counter bullets I should buy that exhibit soft recoil and ballistics. Not interested in brands; even though it would be helpful, but what _ _ _ gr bullets do I need? Only interested in shooting at the range and self-defense. My current and future shooting instruments are all Ruger revolvers. (1) DA SP101 3" 357M/38Spl, (2) DA GP100 5" 357M/38Spl, (3) SA SBH 5.5" 44Rem, (4)SA BH Convt. 6.5" 357M/9mm and (5) Vaquero 5.5" 45colt. Thanks.