I am with you on that. As for soaking, I like apple juice 1/3 pineapple juice 1/3 spring water 1/3 let set covered from 2-6 hrs. I like to put it in the bbq at high heat straight using charcoal straight from the fridge (cold). This will brown over the butt and not cook the inner meat. Soon as its brown to your liking pull it out and place it in the smoker. Use 2 thermos to get the most accurate reading and hold the smoker at 215 - 225 F. Spray it often with your apple pine water mix. I want to hit a internal temp of about 140, then stoke the fire some bringing external temp to about 275-300 F, kill it and let it set in the smoker (if you can kill the heat) if not pull it out when the internal temp hits 150, wrap in foil, let set, serve...I use apple cider vinegar but don't soak it. I spray it on the butt, put the rub on, then spray it again.
Rule for them to be tender is low and slow. I cook mine at 225 for at least 10 hrs. Whether its oven or smoker, both the same.