When I worked in the prison system, one of the Officers decided to change from male to female. I got tired of avoiding him so finally I said "F" it and sat down to eat lunch with him in the ODR (Officers Dining Room). We had a great time and I asked him not to talk about his change procedures and he respected that. He was a decent sort of guy and we shared a lot of lunches after that.
As to the Maryland candidates, that's where I stop being understanding. If they would just live their lives without pulling down their pants to bring this crap up constantly, I'd be OK. I'm sick to death of being forced to deal with their life choices. Live your life as you wish, keep it to yourself and leave me to Hell out of your personal business. Sure, that's really how it will work................
They had several mandatory meetings about the sex change guy at the prison. They went on & on about his rights and how we were legally obligated to leave him alone. At the last meeting, they brought in a sex change expert who was giving us a step by step run through about the surgery and I had enough! I asked to speak and unloaded on them. I said I knew him, liked him and wished him well with his choices but I was damned tired of hearing about his penis! I said they were concentrating on HIS rights and crapping all over mine. What about MY rights to not be forced to deal with that?
You don't do that inside of a prison! They CAN launch an investigation and refuse to allow you to leave until the investigation is complete but I no longer cared. It did make them stop on the blow by blow sex change description, however.
That is my beef with people like that. They ARE selfish. They force you to ponder their groin area and what they do with it whether you want to or not.