Title is self explanatory. Lol
Curious as to your problems at work and how you cope. I have always been a polite person, push myself to get the best training I can, and even when I don’t know something or make a mistake I do my best to stay busy and put all my effort into my work. I have plenty of short comings and issues I’m still working on today, such as being careful about working too fast and that causing me not to listen. More on that later...
So how do you all deal with a passive aggressive boss or co worker? This is pretty new to me. Also mods please excuse my language but I need to vent...my boss is gay(I’m not sharing this to be mean), passive aggressive, weirdly obsessed with intelligence, yet has no skills to train or build a team. IMO I think this interest in how smart someone is, is a way to not feel accountable for putting zero effort into a training program. Nope, you’re on your own, how dare you ask so many questions in an environment where a million steps are taking place. How dare I. Lol. When my boss looked at my resume all I heard was he’s smart, look at how smart he is. Meanwhile I’m thinking **** my life lol. If you only knew. I had a conversation with my boss and another supervisor about it. To sum it up, I don’t view myself as perfect and I have made my mistakes. I don’t feel it’s a good thing to infatuate about say intelligence and just expect me going into a new trade will be bump free. It took me years to become good at what I know how to do.
I also was a supervisor, and I had my style of training people. In my eyes a supervisor who works with a crew directly, is responsible for their individual failers. I made it my mission to train people the best I could, and when they failed I pushed harder. I rethought my strategy in training them. Probably out of 20 plus people in 6 years, only 2 I had to say I couldn’t make work. I’m proud of that. So I’m a little baffled watching my boss and current supervisor. Very lazy people. Not very encouraging.
One of my issues is getting busy and not taking notes when I should. Today I had to drop what I’m doing and go dropped off said parts. I have a routine...I ask things before I leave. I’m 99 percent sure I got thrown under the buss today. I know my boss didn’t tell me I was picking up shit we needed today, normally I would question my listening skills, but I went threw too many people not saying I had to pick up. Then when I get to said vendor they tell me no we don’t have anything for you after I ask. Get back, wonder why my boss is upset. I approach the boss. Get told I was told twice they had a pick up. Ok that’s on me I apologize. I hate going to a boss FYI. When I had to deal with performance issues at my old job I went to the source and tried to problem solve. So my boss calls said vendor and talks to another person. Yup parts are there. You fuckers...lol. Ok, alright. This story isn’t necessary but everyday I’m dealing with lack of training, high expectations, being told I’m awesome one minute, how they don’t plan to let me go, they appreciate me, then I find out someone’s having a tantrum and can’t talk to me. I guess I’m old school. I don’t see the big deal in confrontation. Confrontation works well when people hold themselves accountable.
I also don’t understand the shit talking. I don’t do it anymore. It’s negative and disruptive. Seems to be a big passive aggressive trait. I come from bad mouth labor jobs and if you talk shit, it’s ok to say it to said persons face and not lose your job. Here, I get funny looks when asked what I think about someone and say I don’t know and go back to work.
Curious as to your problems at work and how you cope. I have always been a polite person, push myself to get the best training I can, and even when I don’t know something or make a mistake I do my best to stay busy and put all my effort into my work. I have plenty of short comings and issues I’m still working on today, such as being careful about working too fast and that causing me not to listen. More on that later...
So how do you all deal with a passive aggressive boss or co worker? This is pretty new to me. Also mods please excuse my language but I need to vent...my boss is gay(I’m not sharing this to be mean), passive aggressive, weirdly obsessed with intelligence, yet has no skills to train or build a team. IMO I think this interest in how smart someone is, is a way to not feel accountable for putting zero effort into a training program. Nope, you’re on your own, how dare you ask so many questions in an environment where a million steps are taking place. How dare I. Lol. When my boss looked at my resume all I heard was he’s smart, look at how smart he is. Meanwhile I’m thinking **** my life lol. If you only knew. I had a conversation with my boss and another supervisor about it. To sum it up, I don’t view myself as perfect and I have made my mistakes. I don’t feel it’s a good thing to infatuate about say intelligence and just expect me going into a new trade will be bump free. It took me years to become good at what I know how to do.
I also was a supervisor, and I had my style of training people. In my eyes a supervisor who works with a crew directly, is responsible for their individual failers. I made it my mission to train people the best I could, and when they failed I pushed harder. I rethought my strategy in training them. Probably out of 20 plus people in 6 years, only 2 I had to say I couldn’t make work. I’m proud of that. So I’m a little baffled watching my boss and current supervisor. Very lazy people. Not very encouraging.
One of my issues is getting busy and not taking notes when I should. Today I had to drop what I’m doing and go dropped off said parts. I have a routine...I ask things before I leave. I’m 99 percent sure I got thrown under the buss today. I know my boss didn’t tell me I was picking up shit we needed today, normally I would question my listening skills, but I went threw too many people not saying I had to pick up. Then when I get to said vendor they tell me no we don’t have anything for you after I ask. Get back, wonder why my boss is upset. I approach the boss. Get told I was told twice they had a pick up. Ok that’s on me I apologize. I hate going to a boss FYI. When I had to deal with performance issues at my old job I went to the source and tried to problem solve. So my boss calls said vendor and talks to another person. Yup parts are there. You fuckers...lol. Ok, alright. This story isn’t necessary but everyday I’m dealing with lack of training, high expectations, being told I’m awesome one minute, how they don’t plan to let me go, they appreciate me, then I find out someone’s having a tantrum and can’t talk to me. I guess I’m old school. I don’t see the big deal in confrontation. Confrontation works well when people hold themselves accountable.
I also don’t understand the shit talking. I don’t do it anymore. It’s negative and disruptive. Seems to be a big passive aggressive trait. I come from bad mouth labor jobs and if you talk shit, it’s ok to say it to said persons face and not lose your job. Here, I get funny looks when asked what I think about someone and say I don’t know and go back to work.
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