If any of this $4k was my money the wife would have to make good on it.
lol
What a way to live.
If any of this $4k was my money the wife would have to make good on it.
Just how old is this step-daughter?
If the card is in your wife's name, let her worry about it. She's the only one that can press charges. She obviously knew it was going on if from what you are saying this happened before.
I can tell you from past experience, your wife will never press charges. Exactly why I specified in a previous post to have separate finances. If not, one day you'll wake up and realize you've been drained dry. Had it happen, and seen it happen when involving stepchildren.
appreciate it the advice. SD is 20, old enough.
wife has taken a very different approach to money now and have seen a 180 change in her which is great. Obviously kid is her daughter and she’s enabled the behavior which she recognizes, and has to make some tough decisions on it. Financially speaking we are both pretty transparent with our spending and it has lead to a better marriage. Plus we both have full access to accounts so no funny money.
Credit cards have been replaced, we just switched over to a new bank this week, so SD has no access to any of our funds. Granted this has been the case since March when we moved out here.
expensive lesson for sure. Upside is my two daughters will get a larger inheritance as I don’t plan k. Leaving anything for her based on this and other things, subject to her continuing being this way. Should she change, I’ll reconsider
At the urging of the wifes parents we have kept out money apart.(Not that I have not paided 90% of the way)Some folks were never meant to have mnuch money. Seeing my wife's stupid handling of her money over 30+ years we have been married, does not surprise me her parents are in Debt.lol
What a way to live.
Fact of the matter is, you will never change the stepdaughter, and until she has some severe life changing moments, the stepdaughter ain't going to change.
And unless your wife cuts her off, and practices "tough live" with her daughter, don't assume she isn't still helping her daughter. Had it happen, and seen it happen, that they will tell you one thing, while helping the daughter in secret.
Ask him if he can get some milk on the way here. We’re running low. HahahaAre you saying cousin Guido doesn't get an all expenses trip to Cali? He's not gonna like that . . . he may even visit YOU !
This is very true.
Experienced it myself many years ago with current GF, and her daughters.
She wanted to be their friend, not their mother/parent, especially with the youngest.
Fortunately, she finally realized that she was doing wrong.
Fact of the matter is, you will never change the stepdaughter, and until she has some severe life changing moments, the stepdaughter ain't going to change.
And unless your wife cuts her off, and practices "tough live" with her daughter, don't assume she isn't still helping her daughter. Had it happen, and seen it happen, that they will tell you one thing, while helping the daughter in secret.
agree and I realize it. Time for a heart to heart with the wifey on this.
agree and I realize it. Time for a heart to heart with the wifey on this.
agree and I realize it. Time for a heart to heart with the wifey on this.
My 21 year old IS my stepchild.Unfortunately it is much more difficult being on the same team with a stepchild, though.
My 21 year old IS my stepchild.
If that's the case, I don't see how the card company is saying the charges are authorized. I would lean on them more.She took it without permission
I didn't mention it because it really didn't matter when it comes to being his parent. I took the wife as mine, means I took the kid as mine too.Ah, you didn't mention that.
I still stand by my comment, of course it's just my opinion.
Unfortunately it is much more difficult being on the same team with a stepchild, though.