QFT.My father was very judicious in his ass whippings. You knew you earned it, no ambiguity. I turned out just fine. what you are ascribing to is that the last 2 generations of men have been raised by women. What you see today is the result of that.
I can't imagine how I would turn out if I were being raised today. My parents might have actually believed my kindergarten principal and treated my "condition" with God knows what approach.