She's pissed again...

[skfullgun]

She either has a mental issue, in which case you should get her some medical help, or you need to end your current living arrangement.

 

[Vaquero]

She either has a mental issue, in which case you should get her some medical help, or you need to end your current living arrangement.

Maybe he does.
However, there's not a magazine in print that could ever mean more to me than my wife/marriage.
A case of ammo? If it's that important, I'll pay and pick up local.

 

[Texasjack]

Obviously, you are completely wrong on this issue.

The reason you are wrong is because you are married. All things that are wrong are your fault.

And you should know that by now.

 

[robertc1024]

Maybe he does.
However, there's not a magazine in print that could ever mean more to me than my wife/marriage.
A case of ammo? If it's that important, I'll pay and pick up local.

Amen. Been married 30 years. Want to know the secret? Golden rule. Seems to work out all over the place.

 

[innominate]

This stinks. I hope she will sit down with you and solve the problem. If it’s a problem for you, it IS a problem for her, y’all being married and all. She needs to care.

She needs to tell you she will work on it (being more careful) and DO it.

If there is a reason she’s doing it (medical or otherwise) it needs taken care of too.

Maybe if you can’t trust her to fix it, (or if it’s nit easily fixed) you might choose to be more careful with not giving her access to your stuff... (wait... that’s not what I meant!) ... I mean you may have to put up your things so she can’t gwt to them. Lock them in a foot locker chest or something. Get things mailed to a P.O. box or friend’s address. This sounds like a huge pain, but not sure what alternatives are that aren’t drastic.

I really hope that nothing more serious is wrong with her regarding this.

I put up with a lot of messed up, stupid shit from my husband (and kids too). I’m smart enough to say that they can probably say the same about me. Nothing we have done so far is a “deal breaker,” but it’s been CLOSE at times. With that being said, I’m happy that we’ve been married over 20 years and want to keep that going. I have no interest in being single OR alone or involved with anybody else, and he’s told me he feels the same. So, we are both stuck with each other’s awesomeness and bullshit at the same time. Yay.

She either has a mental issue, in which case you should get her some medical help, or you need to end your current living arrangement.

I agree with these posts. This is either passive aggressive behavior or something is wrong cognitively. Both should, or can, be addressed. Good luck if you decide to address the issue. Otherwise you just have to sick of up

 

[Wildcat Diva]

It’s not up to me to say what is a deal breaker.

Sometimes small oversights are just that and if that’s the cost of being together, you might just take it.

Other times...oversights are symptoms of bigger problems and are red flags. That’s only a SOMETIMES, not an always.

We all can do stupid, mindless stuff sometimes, like put car keys into a trash can, or put an entire unopened carton of pico from HEB into the cabinet instead of the fridge (just happened, hubby did that one). It’s actually that amazing ANY of us are able to function with all we have to think about and do. But if a person messes up, they should say sorry, or at least chill out if it’s possible they get blamed for stuff. It is a “stay calm” kind of scenario.

When my hubby gets irritable/ shitty with me when he needs help finding something that’s lost... that’s my cue to back off because I’m about to get shitty right back and that won’t solve OUR problem. So I don’t help him OR engage him if I’m in my right mind (heh, good luck!) when things go south in this kind of scenario.

(Not saying that you got shitty with her, just describing when things get irritable, no matter who did what)

 

[General Zod]

Maybe he does.
However, there's not a magazine in print that could ever mean more to me than my wife/marriage.
A case of ammo? If it's that important, I'll pay and pick up local.

Yeah, but if this is an ongoing problem, then something has to give. It's indicative of either some sort of mental issue or a complete and total lack of respect for the other person in the marriage.

My wife and I are too poor for anything money was paid for to be thrown out like that...there would definitely be words exchanged.

 

[skfullgun]

There is either a medical, cognitive issue that needs attention, in which case you stick around and care for her no matter what, or there is a deep seated resentment issue that WILL get worse. Relationships are about mutual respect. It is lacking in the OP's scenario

 

[BRD@66]

What in the world did we do for marital/medical advice before the internet?

 

[TxStetson]

What in the world did we do for marital/medical advice before the internet?

Talked to folks face to face.

 

[Wildcat Diva]

Well to be fair, it was really more of a vent than advice request.

 

[Grundy1133]

This stinks. I hope she will sit down with you and solve the problem. If it’s a problem for you, it IS a problem for her, y’all being married and all. She needs to care.

She needs to tell you she will work on it (being more careful) and DO it.

If there is a reason she’s doing it (medical or otherwise) it needs taken care of too.

Maybe if you can’t trust her to fix it, (or if it’s not easily fixed) you might choose to be more careful with not giving her access to your stuff... (wait... that’s not what I meant!) ... I mean you may have to put up your things so she can’t get to them. Lock them in a foot locker chest or something. Get things mailed to a P.O. box or friend’s address. This sounds like a huge pain, but not sure what alternatives are that aren’t drastic.

I really hope that nothing more serious is wrong with her regarding this.

I put up with a lot of messed up, stupid shit from my husband (and kids too). I’m smart enough to say that they can probably say the same about me. Nothing we have done so far is a “deal breaker,” but it’s been CLOSE at times. With that being said, I’m happy that we’ve been married over 20 years and want to keep that going. I have no interest in being single OR alone or involved with anybody else, and he’s told me he feels the same. So, we are both stuck with each other’s awesomeness and bullshit at the same time. Yay.

and THIS boys and girls, in a nutshell, is marriage.

 

[Grundy1133]

My wife and I are too poor for anything money was paid for to be thrown out like that...there would definitely be words exchanged.

I'm right there with ya on that one!

 

[Kar98]

Obviously, you are completely wrong on this issue.

The reason you are wrong is because you are married. All things that are wrong are your fault.

And you should know that by now.

That's the reason I'm all for gay marriage. If two women are married to each other, which of the wives will be right?

 

[Southpaw]

We're both pack rats.
Nearly have to talk each other into throwing anything away.
It works for us.

Same here.

 

[easy rider]

Subconsciously much of this could be the reason why I am in no damn hurry to get married again.

 

[avvidclif]

Amen. Been married 30 years. Want to know the secret? Golden rule. Seems to work out all over the place.

Golden Rule: She has the Gold and makes the Rules.

 

[TheMailMan]

That's the reason I'm all for gay marriage. If two women are married to each other, which of the wives will be right?

A few years back I had a buddy going through a nasty divorce. One day over a few beers and cigars he told me "I can understand the whole gay thing now, the person in the bed next to you has the same thought process, you don't have to try and guess what they're thinking".

Thanks for the help everyone.

 

[Moonpie]

That's the reason I'm all for gay marriage. If two women are married to each other, which of the wives will be right?

I think you just divided by zero.

 

[Jigo23]

It’s not up to me to say what is a deal breaker.

Sometimes small oversights are just that and if that’s the cost of being together, you might just take it.

Other times...oversights are symptoms of bigger problems and are red flags. That’s only a SOMETIMES, not an always.

We all can do stupid, mindless stuff sometimes, like put car keys into a trash can, or put an entire unopened carton of pico from HEB into the cabinet instead of the fridge (just happened, hubby did that one). It’s actually that amazing ANY of us are able to function with all we have to think about and do. But if a person messes up, they should say sorry, or at least chill out if it’s possible they get blamed for stuff. It is a “stay calm” kind of scenario.

When my hubby gets irritable/ shitty with me when he needs help finding something that’s lost... that’s my cue to back off because I’m about to get shitty right back and that won’t solve OUR problem. So I don’t help him OR engage him if I’m in my right mind (heh, good luck!) when things go south in this kind of scenario.

(Not saying that you got shitty with her, just describing when things get irritable, no matter who did what)

Great to get a woman’s perspective on this situation! And of course, it is the best most sane and rational approach than most us guys who are like...”kick her a$$ to the curb!” LOL
Thank you ma’am!