There's other reasons. But yeah, you're treated differently. It's nothing new. My father served in WW2 and Korea. Mom knew he served. He never spoke about it. Besides one time. Describing having a remington shotgun next to him on the bulldozer. He had been a combat engineer. I only knew of one picture of him in uniform. He was a hard core E6. He never stepped a foot in a VA. Or VFW. No army buddies. He kept his experience to himself. Sometimes, Somethings are better left alone. Things that can be asked about but can't be explained. It's like describing the transparency between ghost to ghost. Here in Killeen, the stigma is rare. Everybody(most) here is military or related to military. Then there's this deal. If you no longer drive on base. You better pull the military stickers off your windshield. That one I can't really explain. You really feel the stigma at the VA in Temple. It can be so thick. You can chew like gum.